I have read several articles outlining the evils of facebook. It makes people depressed. It makes it appear that thier “friends” are happier
and doing more with thier lives. I have read that it is now stated as
a reason for many divorces in hearings. In high schools girls are
using it to bully other girls. Suicides have actually been linked to
facebook. Now these are just a few that I have read and they all seem
so crazy to me.
I think there is some truth to it. As a single woman, I have been down
or pissed off to see a new engagement or birth. I hate to see the girl
that was the hugest bitch in high school or college get married or
have a kid. Nothing bothers me more than seeing the girls that slept
with just about everyone and their brothers (literally in some cases)
get engaged. I have fallen into the thoughts of “why not me?” and “how
can they find someone and not me”.
One thing that I do enjoy is seeing is couples who profess their love
and happiness in their statuses. That might sound contradictory to
what I just said.
“I just love my boyfriend! He is my best friend and love of my life!!!
I’m so lucky to have him! He is so good to me! My life is just perfec
-Real status update from my obnoxiously “in love” facebook friend
Yes at first look, I have to refrain from gagging, but then it makes
me wonder how long before that couple breaks up. You are probably
wondering how a overly the top love announcement to the world could
possibly be a sign of breaking up or unhappiness. Now wait stay with
me. It will make sense.
I have been victim to it. When I have had a problems with my
boyfriend and we maybe have a talk that things will get better and
things will work, I instinctively put it on facebook or write all
gushy about how great my boyfriend is and how happy we are. It is all
lies. Well, maybe not complete lies because at the time I did feel
that way due to a good talk with my boyfriend. It just never lasts
long. And if a girl is constantly writing those gushy, vomit inducing
statuses it always makes me think there is trouble in paradise. I mean
do you believe that status above is for real?!? I don’t. I mean does
she have no friends or anything else going on in her life? I only feel
sorry for her because if that all she has going for her is her
boyfriend… it may soon be ending or not all that happy at all.
Maybe it is not always true for all people, but it sure gets me
through my thoughts of wishing I wasn’t single to believe it is true
I try to refrain from putting those kind of statuses up anymore.
Lately I’ve been trying to avoid any status updated and limit all
facebook activity due to how it may come off to people who may think
the same things.
Just think about the next time you are about to put an extra happy
status up… it is probably because you are upset about something or
not real happy in your relationship and hoping the status and extra
love will change things. Believe me, I’ve been there and it doesn’t
work for long. Actually I think refraining from facebook and not
keeping up with it has really made me happy and focus more on the
things that make me happy.
Now maybe not all your facebook “friends” will be privy to thinking
this way, but some of them might be aware of this trait and may be
feeling pity for you instead of the intended jealousy.
Afew of my friends believe it is very true too. We have a joke that if
one of us puts a super-happy status up to call them and make sure they
are ok. I’ve even gotten done texting a friend about a problem and she
told me that I just need to put a super happy status up and that will
show everyone. Although, sometimes thinking that others might think
I’m happy, makes me a little happy.
So use facebook wisely and if it makes you happy, go for that status
update when your down, but if it makes you feel like a fraud and that
maybe just maybe someone will know.. refrain.
Please refrain if it is anything like the above status update just for
the sake of your facebook “friends’. We all thank you.